Man Files for Divorce After Finding Out About His Wife’s Infidelity Despite His Serial Cheating for Years, He’s Called Out By His Friends

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 7, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. No one likes infidelity, yet it's more common than the rate of people getting married. Everyone can agree about its disrespect, disgusting behavior and consequences, but many of those people do it anyway. It's a complicated topic not bereft of nuance, but it doesn't make it easier to swallow when it happens to you. 

This brings us to the Reddit piece. Some people want their cake and to eat it too. This man in particular is the biggest hypocrite of them all; he's been serial cheating on his wife for years. He claims it 'spices up their relationship,' but I say that's a load of bull. The second his wife cheats on him, he's out of the situation and filing for divorce. Now, it's not inherently bad what he did, but he needs to take responsibility for his actions. His message out of this shouldn't be to shame her, but to look in the mirror. 

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    r/AITAH • 1 day ago evil-mouse AITAH for calling my "friend" a hypocrite when he told me the reason he filed for divorce.
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    Last night I met up with some friends I hadn't seen in a long time. Let's call them Chad and Kyle. We were drinking, chatting, and having fun, and all of a sudden the mood changed. Somehow the topic turned to Chad's recently finalized divorce. I hadn't seen him in a while, so I was unaware he was getting a
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    divorce. When I asked him why they got divorced, the conversation (as I remember it) went something like this: Chad: She cheated on me.
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    Me, trying to stifle a laugh: You're serious? You of all people? You cheated on her with multiple people over the years, and when she does the same, you divorce her?
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    Chad: It's not the cheating; it's the lack of respect. I made sure to respect her, so she never knew about my cheating. But she couldn't give me that same respect.
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    Me: That's not respect; that's your ability to hide your cheating versus hers. Respect would be not cheating on her. Chad: So you're saying what she did is alright?
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    Me: No, I'm not. I'm saying you, the serial cheater, are a hypocrite to immediately divorce her for cheating. Somehow Kyle got us to calm down and change the subject.
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    When I got up to take a leak, they got back to the subject. I came back and they were talking about why Chad thought it was okay for him to cheat. In his mind, the cheating was good for the with his (now ex) wife and their marriage. life
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    Some things he said were: "If you have outside, you'll work harder in bed with your wife," and in a marriage gets boring, so if I go get some excitement outside, I can work on the rest of the marriage."
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    I kept making remarks like, "I bet she thought the same when she did it." . • Apparently, I wouldn't understand because I'm not married. I don't have to be married to understand loyalty and respect.
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    Kyle is married and has told us he's getting in a bit of a slump with his wife. While my advice is to do some interesting new things with his wife, Chad is explaining why his cheating "worked" to make his marriage exciting.
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    • No, I don't condone what . Chad's wife did, but I do think he's a hypocrite for divorcing his wife for cheating, since he is a serial cheater. I don't know Chad's ex-wife, I've only met her twice. Knowing him, she is better off without him.
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    When we left, I told Kyle, "If you want your wife to divorce you and get majority custody of your son, you should listen to Chad." Anyway, I'm going to the kitchen now. I promised Lexy I would make a shepherd's pie today.
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    spooky_aglow 1d ago. Definitely NTA here, chad's justification that cheating somehow improved his marriage is a weak excuse for his actions.
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    You're right to call out his hypocrisy. It's important for friends to hold each other accountable and not tolerate disrespectful attitudes. It's okay to stand up against such behavior.
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    • Famous-Upstairs998 1d ago NTA but why are you still friends with a cheater? He knew you knew about the cheating, he probably thought you were ok with it on some level. Not only is he not sorry for what he did, he defends it. Why see this POS at all? Why do you care what he thinks?
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    . Away-Understandi... 1d ago NTA and good for you for calling him out and turning his reasons back on him. Chad sounds terrible. I really hope Kyle doesn't listen to him. Definitely distance yourself from Chad because he's clearly not going to
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    change and you don't want to be associated with that.
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    Liquid-Double-Dis... 1d ago • Who's Lexy?! Also NTA obviously.
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    Remarkable_Buyer... 1d ago NTA. I really love that you were honest with him. So many people would have stayed silent to keep the peace. He needed to hear it.
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    Cezzium • 1d ago ΝΤΑ Chad is a guy who will never understand choosing the bear.
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    Adept_Ad_473 1d ago Wow, if mental gymnastics was an Olympic sport, he'd have several medals. There's no justification for cheating, end of story. He's a hypocrite, how hard it must be for him to just say "yes, and now that I know
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    how it feels to get cheated on, I can't continue this relationship and I won't do it to the next person" NTA
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    Sometimes you have to come to terms with the fact that some people are just too stupid to listen to reason.
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    NomadicallySede... • 1d ago ΝΤΑ My guess is that Chad didn't work very hard at pleasing his wife sexually so they didn't have a great sex life. Yet it I him off when she went elsewhere.
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    Have been married over 30 years and it's still not boring!
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